To Friend, or Not to Friend?
How do you decide if you approve or ignore (deny) friend requests on Goodreads – or other bookish sites? Do you automatically add everyone who requests, or are you meticulous with your friends list like I am?
Am I just picky and anal and, in turn, a bitch for not approving everyone? How about those who don’t even bother answering the friending question? That has to be my #1 pet peeve about Goodreads friending. I actually have a question set up just to easily identify those who are spamming friend requests to every single Goodreads user. If the question is not answered, I don’t even look at the name of the user, I hit ignore. Is that mean? *shrug* I want my friends list to mean something to me. I don’t want to have a million “friends” filled with people I don’t know, have never spoken to, or don’t even read books but only want to promote their own. What I want, is to see reviews and discussions on books/genres I’m actually interested in in my feed. I want to communicate with users who are social on the site. And you know that “Friends Reviews” section? I want that average rating to tell me something, and to show me reviews from all these people I actually know and trust!
What else would make me “ignore” a friend request on Goodreads? (And yes these are all actual friend request responses to my “Why do you want to be my friend?” question!)
- Having 50% more friends than books on your shelves
- Having no profile picture (yeah that creeps me out for some reason). At least put a generic stock image!
- Thinking Goodreads is a dating site:
- “i like your profile picture”
- “hi bb”
- Thinking you’re the CIA:
- “I am only interested in identifying you, I hope that my friendship request receptive”
- Friending me for promotional purposes:
- “Hi, Giselle… As an author, I find it’s best to be friends with great reviewers, rather than the opposite! Looking forward to sending you a new story for review soon!”
- “I would love to have you review my book when it comes out in January”
- “Dear Respected I would like to request a review for my latest book release (…)”
- If they creep me out:
- “coz friendship iz lovely!”
- “to discover you”
- If they don’t even know why they’re friending:
- “hmmmm i guess we haev teh same tastes maybe”
- “What u think?”
- If they want a pity party:
- “i need more friends :-(“
- If they don’t really seem to know what the question means:
- “reader ….”
- If they are too mysterious for me:
- “لانها تعجبنى فى تعليقاتها”
Also, you might want to be patient because I only go through my friend request list every couple of months. Bad habit, I know. >.<
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