Readers Against Recommendations!
I am not a fan of recommending books to others – strangers especially! I know, it should come with being an avid reader, and especially a blogger, but I hate it. Don’t get me wrong. I love giving my opinion on books I have read. I love telling everyone to read this book I just read and loved. I even love back and forth “hey you should read this” chats with other bloggers – which happen on Twitter regularly. But that’s not what I mean. I mean in the cases where I’m asked to select books for others to read. Like, I will get a random inbox message from a past co-worker I haven’t spoken to in years who’s asking me what book they should bring on vacation. Or a new Goodreads user who emails me with “what books should I gift my 16yo niece?” (I swear this happened!) with no hints on what kind of reader they even are. Wait.. what am I? Your magic crystal ball? I swear, this happens at least once every couple of months. It’s as if people on my Facebook/GR think I will know exactly what they will love because I read a lot. Well, nope! One problem may be that I read a lot of genres – I can jump from paranormal to horror to contemporary in the same week. But I completely blank out when someone asks me straight up, to recommend them a book.
Now, you ask me what kind of books I would recommend if you loved The Hunger Games. Ok, at least that gives me some kind of clue to what books you like and I’ll throw you a few links your way. But even then, I could recommend you 50 books easily, so picking only a few and hoping they’re the right ones for you? WHY DO YOU DO THIS TO ME!! Honestly, most times I will just send them a link to my Goodreads shelf (and then they’re like… but which one is the best)? O_O *twitch*
For friends who I do know enough to send a few personalized recs their way, I still dislike it. Because what if they don’t like the book I recommend? What if they hate it? Where will we stand as friends if they do?? (that last one is a joke… kinda) But really, I could be responsible for making them waste all those reading hours they will never get back! Oh and if we talk about the opposite there for a minute. I’m always nervous reading a book that was highly recommended to me – or gifted – by a good friend of family. Gah!
Yes, I know that taste differs and no one should expect to love everything everyone else love – lord knows I’ve been the black sheep enough to know this, but still. When someone wants me to tell them what books they should bring on vacation (this was the most recent rec question I got), I cringe!
How do you feel about recommending books to strangers, or friends?
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XOXO, Book Girl